When you break up with someone you love, and it’s the other person who decided that it was time to end the relationship, you can be pretty seriously broken up about it. Luckily, life doesn’t have to end without your ex, and honestly it doesn’t even have to BE without your ex!

Yeah, I’m serious. It can actually be easier to get your ex back than to face the pain of being without him or her! All you have to do is go about it the right way, and these following four things can really help you do just that, even if a couple of them might not seem like they’d really be much help.

1) Get out, have some fun with friends. You may not feel like having fun is even possible, but if you get out and into life again while you surround yourself with people you care about and who care about you, you’ll surprise yourself by actually having a pretty good time.

What does this have to do with getting your ex back? Fair question, but it’s relatively simple. Staying out there and keeping on the scene and in good form is a great way to show just how strong you are…it builds a sense of admiration for you to be able to keep on living when so many let breakups cripple them. It’ll get you attention, either from your ex or from other members of the opposite sex…which will get your ex’s attention for sure.

2) Look back over your past relationships, focusing on the most recent. It may be painful or seem like it’s no use, but you have to do this if you plan on actually getting back your ex effectively. You have to come up with a clear understanding of the things you did in your past relationships that helped cause them to fail. You can’t get past your mistakes if you keep making them.

And playing the blame game isn’t going to help you any. Forget about anything your partners may have done to make everything fall apart. The only person you can change is yourself, and so you need to make those changes if you want to have a hope of working out this relationship or really any future ones as well. Focus on your own issues, and make sure that you’re giving 100% to whatever relationship you may be in.

3) Keep up your physical appearance. When you sit around all day pining over lost love, you tend to let yourself go…and that gallon of Ben and Jerry’s ain’t helping. Don’t let yourself slide in the fitness/hygiene department…remember that you want your ex to want to come back to you, and to do that you need to be in shape at least as good as you were when you were together, and it helps to have showered in the last week and a half.

4) Perhaps the biggest and most important thing I can tell you about getting your ex back is listed at number four so that I can be sure you’re paying attention by this point. You ready? Here it is: DON’T RUSH THINGS! Your ex is hurting like you are, possibly worse! Bombarding him or her with more and more of YOU is only going to work against you! Back off, give your ex some space, and work on the things you need to do before you ever make contact again.

Initiating contact once more should be a delicate process as well. Keep it as light and nonthreatening as possible, usually no more than a simple phone call or email. No relationship talk, just a friendly “how have you been?” is appropriate. It’s not likely to cause a lot of suspicion or stress just to see how your ex is doing, and it’s a point from which you can work up until you two are spending time with each other again.

When you get to this stage, you want to make sure that you keep it light and simple. Again, no “feelings” talk. Just do things that the two of you used to really enjoy together, and it’ll bring back happy memories. Bring back enough happy memories, and let it show enough that you’ve been working hard on your flaws and keeping yourself together, and you just may spark enough interest to inspire your ex to want to stop being an “ex” anymore.

No two people are exactly the same, so your relationship could easily be an exception to the rule, but for the vast majority of broken-hearted people out there, these tips will help you get your ex back easier than you never thought it could be. All it takes is a little effort, and you should be happily with your ex in no time!

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