Not everyone is a born conversationalist so first date conversation can be superficial, awkward, and painful. A little bit of research and practice can go a long way. Think the scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary where she practices pronouncing Chechnya.

Of course there are the basics like family composition, schooling, hobbies, books, movies, etc., that you shouldn’t forget. Here are a few other tips to make that first date conversation flow.

Listening to what your date is saying

The sources of great conversation are there, just waiting for you to jump on them. If your date tells you about city, state, region of his childhood and you’ve never been there, ask to hear more about Albany, for instance, or ask for more information (if you’ve been there) about what you did or didn’t see. Listen for openings to those follow up questions and thenfollow up!

Finding offbeat news

Great sources of interesting conversation topics surely to entertain most of us can be found on Best-of-Craigslist, popular picks on Digg.com, and CNN’s Funny News. To fill up those lulls in the conversation, get a quick read on the internet that day so you’re prepared with a few stories.

Research your date’s interests

So you can ask intelligent questions on the date, try to find out what his interests are beforehand; you can do this on the phone before you meet, from his online profile, or from the friend that set you up. He’ll be impressed that you researched.

Nightstand: Look at yours

Think about the book that’s currently on your night stand, the CD that’s playing in your car, the last vacation you took and be prepared for the questions you’ll be asked. Just like you, your date is preparing. In other words, you should be able to answer every question you ask your date.

Jokes: Tell a few

Don’t start now if you rarely tell jokes. But if you know you’re funny and your friends normally laugh at your jokes, you’re probably safe.

Things to avoid

Although politics and religion are important topics to discuss when deciding on your mate, the ol’ saying that they shouldn’t be talked about in mixed company stands true for first dates too. It’s a great way to scare someone off before they get to know you well.

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