Have you ever thought of what it takes to make someone want something? It’s not a question most women confront head-on. However, it is a question you HAVE to confront if you are in the dating market to find yourself a partner, boyfriend, husband or lover.

Most of us are not born salespeople. If we want someone to want something, we don’t sit there and tell someone how awesome it is, convincing them that they need it. You don’t offer it to them for free, certainly, because you know how much you could “get out of it”.

Think about a diamond for a moment. What makes a diamond valuable? Are they a dime a dozen? No. They are RARE. Their value lies in the act that they are not easily come by, and therefore, everyone wants one.

What you need to understand is that you ARE the precious gem. If you want to remain appealing and exciting to a guy, you need to imagine yourself as priceless, extraordinary and WANTED. Remember the last thing you just HAD to have? Maybe it was some new gadget like an iPod or a new Juke phone. You thought about it all the time, you were totally psyched to get it and thought the price was certainly worth it. Then after you had it for a while, it was still great, but you thought about it less and less until you finally either forgot about it or use it without even realizing it.

Once you HAVE the item you want, the allure of the item fades. The same is true in dating. If you let him “have” you too soon, then he loses interest in you a lot faster. The attraction starts to fade quickly if you are no longer giving him the thrill of the chase that men love so much.

If you want to create attraction for a guy, you have to get used to the idea of never being tamed, ensnared, or owned in any way. This is totally counterintuitive for a lot of women, because what we want to say is “I’m yours!” For the sake of attraction, though, you cannot let this happen too early or you will not be his for long.

How do you get him to chase you, though? First of all - you withhold the carrot. DO NOT have sex with him until you are certain you are actually IN a relationship. For men - sex does not make a relationship. Sex is sex. To women, though, sex makes it a relationship. So to avoid getting hurt, do not have sex with him until you have what YOU want from him.

You can also do things like keeping him on his toes by ending a conversation a little too soon. That may seem very strange - but think about it. It will leave him hanging, and thinking about, and anticipating the next time he will talk to you. This is GREAT for attraction.

You can also do simple things like not answer the phone when he calls. Give him a few hours to stew in it, and then call him back. You are a BUSY, sought after woman. Don’t agree to the first date he suggests, tell him you are busy that night, but suggest a different night. Do you see what I am getting at here? You need to let him CHASE you.

Always keep in the back of your mind that scarcity creates value with anything, and the same is certainly true with dating and relationships. Make yourself more valuable by being a little stingy with your company at times and you will keep him coming back for more. Remember, too, that this same tactic can be used in relationships to maintain your natural attraction levels.

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