Even the once-most-bonded of soul-mates can feel trapped in a stale marriage as the years pass. Though we still love our mate, we might feel bored with the routine. Don’t just rekindle that burned out match, or fan the flames, add kerosene to the fire of it, and use Valentine’s as a celebration of love, a reason to try something different, and then make it a habit, a new way of life to change the parameters and depth of the relationship. These tips are tried and true and have worked for many couples.

Touch or carress or both, at least once that night. Hug her (or him). Say I love you, even if it feels a bit shaky at first and you haven’t said it in awhile. Go dancing. Whether it is going dancing or giving each other a “private gift certificate” for a mutual massage that night. Don’t just write the certificates, do it. Or really go dancing, slow dancing, or both. Hold hands window shop at the mall. Ask your significant other to pick out something he or she has been wanting. And buy it. A public show of affection can have a powerful influence. Even though you may be thinking now more of the others bad habits than their romantic touch, this is not the day to be thinking of that. It is a day to celebrate the romantic part. And try to remember it. Taking a day to celebrate it in a fun way, will surelyi help do that.

Don’t order in pizza that night, make a four-course French dinner served on your best china. If you are not a great cook, find a recipe book or a specific recipe on the Internet. Don’t reveal your cooking plans to your mate, only that you are cooking tonight and would love their company. They may be expecting a t-bone steak but this time try an exotic spicy ethnic dish, perhaps some wine, and candlelight with soft music in the background. If you feel uncomfortable in the kitchen, make a formal invitation to dress up and go out to an elegant little French bistro or Italian restaurant. Just make it fun and different than the regular routine meal. Watch her (or him) smile in amazement. Send a surprise gourmet lunch to your loved one’s workplace. Order it over the phone, pay by credit card and send it from “A secret admirer”. When your partner tells you of the gift, just give a mischievous smirk. They will understand. Then hug and kiss her (or him) on the cheek and say, “Happy Valentine’s Day”.

Sexy underwear is a must for both. If you are a woman, perhaps a thong rather than your every day panties, and perhaps a nice negligee over it (or no negligee at all, only the thong which will be revealed later). If you are a male, have on sexy boxers or bikini shorts. If you love humor and to laugh but don’t do so very often anymore, wear something both sexy and humorous under your work clothes. Don’t show this until after your dinner hopefully, with dim lighting and soft music in the background. Make it a show. There are several online stores that carry funny sexy underwear. One is A Thong In My Heart, Victoria’s Secret has some, and others. Watch how fast this can bring back those old almost-forgotten passionate feelings. Try not to get too nervous. If you do, it doesn’t even matter. Tonight is a night of fun and trying new things. Well, actually old things that you may have gotten out of the habit of doing.

Be imaginative Do one or a combination of these things and it will not just rekindle the flame, but fuel the fire, and could add a whole new dimension for what could be to come in your new relationship.

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