When you’ve just broken up with your ex, your entire system is suffering a great deal of emotional stress. Nature has wired our brains so that intense stress causes us to act first then think afterwards. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work so well when we want to win back our ex.

Unless your expertise is managing break ups, your instincts are going to lead you in the wrong direction. The emotions of the moment will bring on bad judgement which will result in lousy decisions. Simple awareness of the common errors that people will make and keeping a clear head will start you off on the right foot.

1.) Threatening your ex is a method that isn’t going to be effective on anyone. The majority of people respond by becoming quite angry and doing whatever they feel like doing. Getting someone to want you is about enticement and attraction while threats just make you seem desperate.

2.) Don’t engage in any pleading or begging with her. This is only going to diminish your worth to her because it places you in a position of weakness. There isn’t a thing attractive about seeming desperate and pathetic.

Remember that confidence, strength, and maturity are masculine qualities that the ladies like. Pleading is often portrayed in the movies as a very romantic and moving gesture. But in real life, you will just get contempt from her.

3.) Pouring a lot of attention on your ex just after you’ve broken up may seem the right thing to do when you are gripped by panic. However that’s because a panic state makes you feel an extreme need to repair the problem immediately at any cost. To her, you’ll come across as a little crazy and very desperate.

So it’s best to lay off all of the late night calls or the text messages. And to allow the situation as well as yourself, some time for cooling off.

4.) Avoid getting resentful and angry with your girlfriends friends and relatives. It’s to be expected that they’ll side with her and gossip about you. Staying on good terms with them will make your attempts at getting her back easier.

Don’t forget that half of the battle is not making the mistakes that will damage your odds at winning your ex back. You can do this by not allowing yourself to get gripped by anger, panic, or the other extreme emotions that commonly occur during a break up. Avoid any of the thoughts and situations that stir up these destructive emotions and start working your plan to win her back.

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