Before you get too far into this you need to ask yourself if you really want a second date with this person. You need to take into account whether or not you have any type of emotional connection with them. If your personalities appear to be compatible and you have similar senses of humor then you’re probably going to say “yes” to want the second date. However, if these qualities are present then if you approached them about a second they would probably say yes anyway.

Meeting someone in person that you met online is a little different though. Once you get to know someone online and decide to meet in person then that is actually your second date. Getting to that first in person meeting is the same as getting the second date.

The number one trick to getting to second date is just being yourself. Being calm allows your date to get to know the real you. If you are nervous and stammering that’s not the real you and could spoil your chance for a second date. Be self confident is an extremely attractive quality to other people and makes other people want to be around you. Your date should be able to know you as your close friends know you.

Be confident but not so overconfident it puts people off to you. In order to develop that level of confidence you must first succeed in those situations where you must exude that confidence. That’s where the problem is. If you aren’t successful in those situations then it becomes extremely tough to be confident in them. The best thing to do is fake it until you do develop that confidence. The first few times you try it you may be freaking out in your head but keep your composure and play it off. Keep anything self destructive you might say about yourself to yourself and it will work out much better. After a few successful attempts it will get easier each time.

That’s normal, now here’s likeable. Embrace your imperfections, accept them rather than defend them. Don’t display them, but, rather, if they show up, smile and acknowledge it with a little humor to show you know it’s unusual. If the other person won’t accept that, you probably don’t really want another date with them.

Don’t worry if there isn’t a strong emotional connection right away. They take time to develop, especially if you want one that lasts. However, if you have similar senses of humor, think similarly, and make eye contact easily then you have the start of a good emotional connection.

Ending the evening at the high point is crucial in getting the second date. This leaves your date wanting to spend more time with you. That right there is the true key to getting the second date.

Don’t be so afraid of making a mistake that you make up lame excuses to leave when it’s going good either. This can make you seem uninterested. Set a time limit for your date and stick to it. If it’s going extraordinarily well then stick with it as long as you can.

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