Anyone who says that it’s difficult to get a man to fall for you has not learned a few tricks of the trade. You have at your disposal a number of crafty methods to build intimacy with a guy even on the first date that are so clever he will never know you are worming your way into his heart until it is too late and you have moved in there and taken over. But these methods are not cheating or using mind control on them that would be frightening if you became that kind of girl. These methods are simple techniques of human communication that can help you in every aspect of life.

Body language is a powerful tool that you can use on a date or in any situation with a man to open communications and create a bond that the man may not even know is happening. What few people know is that we communicate only a small amount of what we learn about each other verbally. Most of what you come to understand about your sweetheart comes from body language.

The best way to learn body language is to observe others, you can see when people are receptive to each other as their body language is open. They have their arms open, their palms out, they make gestures as they talk. Someone who is closed off will have their head tilted down, have their legs pointing away from the person and have their arms crossed etc. When just the movement of your hands or eyes can turn a date around it is important that you pay close attention to the signals you are sending so you don’t appear bored or hostile by mistake!

If you want to communicate trust and openness then put on a small smile, lean towards him and listen as he talks. When he thinks he has your full attention he will be more open with you and appreciate your company much more. Also pay attention to your hands, are they under the table, are your arms crossed? If you put your hands on the table then you are inviting him to come to you so he knows you want to get to know him better.

The easiest way to lower barriers between you is with ‘accidental’ touches, touch his hand when you laugh sometimes, ask him to hold you steady while you remove a stone from your shoe etc. This allows you to breach the barrier of physical contact and create more intimacy while appearing innocent. Whispering is also highly intimate, yet also innocent enough to do without raising any objections from him. Lean across during the night and whisper in his ear about something you just saw and he’ll be powerless to resist you (but have fun watching him try!).

Echoing and mirroring are two other methods body language experts say create an instant bond between you and the man you want to get to know. Mirroring consists of watching his gestures, how he sits and how he uses his head and arms and mimicking those movements in a very subtle way. In that way, when he looks at you, it’s like looking at a mirror of himself and that makes him feel you are very much like him and someone he wants to know better.

You can also mirror the way he speaks to give him that ‘connection’ with you that he will be thrilled about but won’t be able to explain to himself. We all speak differently, some people waffle on and on, other talk in quick bursts, others talk gently and slowly etc. If you gradually come around to his way of talking then you will both be able to talk much more freely as your styles will complement each other and then you can get down to the business of getting to know each other.

These little tricks of the trade are proven methods for lowering the barriers to true romance and getting that guy to open up to you so you can get to know him. And by being a clever companion to him, you are learning to make him better for you even when he doesn’t know you are doing it. It’s a skill that will benefit you in every stage of your relationship with a man.

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