Are you always single or in dead end relationships while others around you seem to always find a great guy and keep him? Not only do you wish your relationships were more like theirs, you deserve them to be! What causes the difference between dead end relationships and lasting ones?

I’m going to share something personal that will help explain the difference. A few weeks ago, I gave birth to a precious baby boy. In the past week, I’m finally figuring out how to meet the needs of this new little guy. People always talk about a mother’s instinct. Becoming a mother again has made me remember what mother’s instincts are all about.

Before having my two kids, I figured mother’s instincts were super powers that enabled the new mom to interpret her child’s every need and know how to solve every problem. Needless to say, I was very disappointed when I wasn’t endowed with this magical gift when either of my children came along. Instead, I found myself feeling very lost at what to do and how to do anything. What I did instinctually have was an indescribable desire to do everything on my power to protect, nurture and soothe the cries of this darling child that had been placed in my arms. I’d do anything to that end, even if it meant dying for my child. Or worse, giving up my precious sleep night after night!

Now that I have become acquainted with many other mothers, I know that the magical omnipotent power of mothering does not exist. Other mother’s instincts are like my own. We don’t do everything perfect, we all want to do the very best we can for our kids from the moment they are born.

This morning as I thought about this again, I realized this is also very true in our relationships with our spouse. I believe that each of us also has an instinct to be in a good relationship. However, just like a mother’s instinct, this desire doesn’t naturally endow us with the skills necessary to create that relationship. We have to learn that part, just as a new mother must learn how to best nurture her new child. By turning to those who have figured out relationships, we can turn our instinctual desire into practical application, and create the relationship we naturally yearn for.

When you find yourself single again or in a dead end relationship, don’t give up. You deserve and have what it takes to be in a happy one. Today is the day to stop going at it alone and take the courageous step in asking for help. Once you know the steps to take, your desire will help you do the rest, and you’ll end up in the relationship you have wanted so badly.

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