Do you think you know how to flirt? First, see if you’re already following these 6 tips, and then we’ll take it from there.

1. Be funny. Laughter resets the attention span. Did you botch your approach? Was it awkward? You know what? If you can get her to laugh after that, all will be forgiven. Don’t be a clown, though. Be playful. And don’t have fun at her expense. Don’t be mean-spirited. Have fun with her. Let her in on the joke.

2. Set things up to appear spontaneous. Spontaneity is great. But sometimes it’s difficult to think of things on the spur of the moment. And you might get tired of waiting for things to happen that match the lines you have ready. So why not make things happen that will allow you to flirt? Example: make it look like you’re having to stop to tie your shoe right in front of a seated woman. Then say “now don’t get excited . . . I’m not proposing [smile]”. I’m sure you can think of other ways to set things up to appear spontaneous.

3. Be cocky. Every guy should try a little cockiness at some point in his life. I don’t advise people to be jerks. And cockiness can run a little thin if used too much or poured on too thick. But most guys err on the opposite end and put themselves down in front of girls. At some point risk coming across as a little bit of a jerk just to know where that line is. Then learn how to stop short of it. A man who knows how to be cocky without crossing the line has a huge advantage with women.

4. Thumbs forward. What? How is this going to help you know how to flirt? OK, this is a little strange perhaps, but have you ever seen a guy with his shoulders rolled forward, and the back of his hands facing forward when he walks? That is a “beta” male posture. Check yourself on this. Make sure when you walk your arms swing naturally, and your thumbs point forward, so your hands are parallel with your body. Seriously, if you’re doing this wrong, you have no idea how much this disqualifies you from the start.

5. Set an authority frame. Don’t let her take on the role of your teacher. Girls will do this if you let them. Try to have things you can teach them. Teach them anything — a tongue twister, the answer to a riddle, how to remember a list of numbers, whatever. Flirting will go much better if you establish yourself as the authority in the situation. And I’m not talking about taking a chauvanistic tone here. I’m just saying, be the one with the most to offer in the interaction.

6. Try a deeper voice. Try not to sound like a cartoon, but try going deeper. Try to have some resonance in your chest when you talk. Think of your voice vibrating through her.

Learn how to flirt well, and you’ll be happy. You’ll be popular with women. And you’ll have interpersonal skills that will transfer to all the other areas of your life as well.

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