It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:

Some men think they are too old.

They could be too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

Is there a difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

All these appearance factors contribute to “looking good.”

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 - Women and Men Think Alike

It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

For instance - If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

WRONG.

Women have a different set of standards when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Our Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

No matter what it is, we see it!

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have teh same issues other men have.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.

This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.

This aspect naturally leads to seduction.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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