What do you do when your ex has just broken up with you? You know this isnt where you want to be, but how do you fix it? Is it even possible to fix it? To reassure you, yes…you can fix all this and get your life back on track, but you will need a plan and the right attitude.

To start us off, ask yourself a question: what is it that led to this? You need to come to the understanding that whatever it was that made the relationship go downhill, it has now fallen to you to fix it. Your ex fixed it for himself by cutting you out, so if you want him back you are going to have to figure out a way for things to work…its no fun that you have to be the fallguy, but that is the way it is. Dont expect this to be as simple as one apology, it is going to take a little work.

So here are a few tips for how to wipe the slate clean and make your ex warm up to the idea of giving you a second chance. If you follow all these ideas, you will quickly find yourself in a much better situation in which your ex is more likely to take you back, or at least hear you out so that you can convince him to take you back.

1) Cut off contact, for about a month. So soon after a breakup, there is bound to be a lot of emotion flaring up and flying around, and things can be said that will never stop haunting you. Giving your ex some space gives him time to cool off and time to clear his head…gives him a chance to miss you.

2) Keep from making the classic and most common breakup mistakes: Drunk Dialing and Text Message Terrorism. Late-night, alcohol-induced loneliness could hurt your chances just as much as a bombardment of constant messages, calls, or emails. These mistakes not only defeat the point of not contacting him, they also shatter any decent image of you he may have had and drive him mental trying to avoid you…neither of which is a good thing if you want him back.

3) Make good use of your time apart, develop a plan! Not knowing what you are doing before you do it can lead to as many problems as Drunk Dialing or Text Message Terrorism, if not more! If you need to, seek help in finding a proven system that works for getting your ex back, and follow it to a tee. Organization is your friend.

The rule about not contacting your ex is not just for keeping from getting yourself in deeper into trouble, although it certainly does have that intent to it. Its also about giving you time to research and organize a real plan, to make sure you can deal with the situation as it comes up. Being prepared for this can mean the difference between getting him back and losing him forever.

This isnt one of those things that just works itself out for the best on its own. You have to guide it to its conclusion, and you need a good plan to do that…preferably one that has been proven time and again to work. There is a lot that can all but ruin the odds of getting him back, but nothing stops that from happening like a tested process.

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