The list of things that can happen to harm one’s relationship is staggering, but probably the most unbelievable thing about it is that nearly everything that regularly causes couples to break up is, simply put, STUPID. At least 95% of relationship issues are totally avoidable with a little common sense, loyalty, and integrity, and you can see that by looking at the following 5 most common culprits for relationship death.

1) Being unfaithful (a.k.a. CHEATING). This is the most disgusting and unforgivable offense, in my opinion. Traditionally thought of as happening when a guy can’t keep his pants on, more and more women are having trouble having the human decency to be loyal to the ones they love. It’s revolting to me when a person is so consumed by the basic animal side that they can’t resist going out and doing something stupid. It’s very simple: don’t cheat on your partner. If you love your partner at all, you love him or her too much to cause that kind of heartache…and trust me, they ALWAYS find out.

2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite sex if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door…it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it’s exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can’t trust your partner, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off.

3) Lack of regard for your partner’s feelings, or emotional support. I know, it’s such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner…really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn’t too much to ask, so don’t be stingy in giving it.

4) Allowing fights and lovers’ quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It’s healthy, it’s natural…it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what’s making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON’T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don’t let them break you two apart…excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don’t let yours be one of them.

5) Boredom and lack of spontanaeity. I feel physical pain every time I hear about a happy couple breaking up because the relationship became stale and boring. There is so very little reason why your time with the one you love should end up becoming more of a day-to-day routine than a constant joy. Do what’s needed to make things stay interesting and fun! You’re two great people in love, why shouldn’t every day together be a blessing? Letting a relationship reach its expiration date should be a crime, because it’s just such a tragic waste…

Well now you’ve been versed in the basic Five Deadly Relationship Sins. Any one of these can really cripple your relationship, and even the person you share it with…so in the name of anything you consider holy, avoid hurting the one you love by keeping these things from ever having a chance to destroy your relationship. With a little bit of trust, care, and decency, your biggest threats can be absolutely nothing.

Next time one of these situations threatens to pop up, stop and ask yourself if whatever outburst or lapse you’re considering giving in to is worth the hurt and loneliness it could easily bring to both of you. If you like being miserable and alone, and wish the same on the one you love…go right ahead. If not…well, the choice is pretty obvious…isn’t it?

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