Sometimes guys get nervous about “how to be romantic”. We try to cover it up and those of us that are “slick” do a good job of covering it up. But even the most suave and romantic guy still gets nervous about exactly how to show romance to a girl that he really wants to sweep off her feet. Maybe because each gender has its own language and while girls seem to be born with romantic thoughts, guys have to learn them.

But you can learn how to be romantic and how to know just exactly what the perfect thing to say is when the moments of romance are happening to you and your girl. And because you are thinking about it in advance, you will be prepared to say the right thing.

How often have you been watching some romantic movie with your girl and the handsome devil on the screen comes up with the perfect words to say that turns his girl into a love making machine? We are actually surrounded by romantic thoughts in the movies, on TV, in the songs we listen to and on the greeting cards we buy for Valentines Day or for birthdays. So is it a good idea to just memorize some romantic sayings and have your list on three by five cards ready to use when you want the date to make that transition from fun and light socializing to true romance and passion?

It’s not cheating to get ready in advance to please your girl with sweet words of romance. When you think about it, few of us think romantic thoughts as we go through our days at work or at school. So when you change your focus from the mundane world to the world of romance on your date that night, you have to be able to shift how you think so romance naturally comes out of you. Keeping romantic ideas and verses written down to read through while you prepare for being with her gets your mind going down the right path so when you are with her, you know better how to tell her how you feel.

But there is a “trick” to how to say just the right thing to your girl. It has to be natural and it has to be from your heart. Don’t just show up at the door of your next date, produce your three by five card and read the refrain from the last song you saw bring tears to her eyes. That would be awkward and, well, phony. And being phony is actually quite a bit worse than not saying anything romantic at all.

Genuine romantic words that really work start with a romantic feeling you have inside you. Then you simply use some of the ways of speaking you have learned to put syllables around those feelings. When the words come out that express what you really feel about her, they may not be sonnets of Shakespeare. But they will be your real feelings and she will know that and love you for it.

Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the “right” thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It’s like using “the force” from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.

Now its gong to take some presence of mind when you know the time is right and you must muster the courage to let that love out from inside you. For girls romance is about love and sweetness but many times it takes a real man with some real guts to tell her how you feel. But think how many times the thought was in your head like “I never want this date to end.” You know it has been here. But you cover it up because guys are just as good at hiding our feelings as girls are about expressing theirs. So the transition you must make is not to push down that romantic thought but to build on it and then finally let it out.

It might be as you cuddle watching sunset and inside you feel that you want that moment to last forever. You will have to build a superhighway between the feeling of that emotion and the saying of it. But once that feeling comes out of your mouth, in words that you use and phrases that are natural to you, they will go right to the heart of your girl.

So instead of worrying only about romantic words that you hear other lovers say in movies and songs, start looking inside. You are having romantic feelings already, even if you have not spoken them to your sweetheart. By learning to let them come out when they happen, you will become the kind of guy who knows how to “sweet talk” your girl, not with phony borrowed phrases but with words of true love, feeling and romance.

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